Books have always been a great way for parents to introduce new ideas to their children. For divorcing parents, reading books about divorce with your children is a simple way to open the lines of communication. By giving them a chance to identify their feelings about the divorce and giving them the opportunity to ask questions, parents can help ensure their children continue to feel safe and loved during this difficult time.
5 Great Kids Books to Help Children Understand Divorce
Recommended for Ages 3 to 7
- Two Homes By Claire Masurel (2003) — Alex is lucky enough to have two homes to call his own. Sometimes he lives at Daddy’s house in the suburbs and other times he lives with Mommy in the city. He knows that he is lucky because he has two rooms, two comfy beds, two favorite chairs and two sets of friends! Best of all, Alex has two parents who love him very much. This book is great for teaching young children that they are loved by both of their parents, no matter where they live.
- It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear By Vicki Lansky (1997) — Koko Bear’s parents have gotten a divorce and now the cub is feeling all different types of emotions. Follow her on a journey through understanding her feelings of anger, confusion, guilt and sadness. With advice for both parents and children on each page, this book is perfect for helping children to identify and express their own feelings about the divorce.
Recommended for Ages 5 and Up
- I Don’t Want to Talk About It By Jean Franz Ransom (2000) — This is the story of a young girl who imagines herself as different animals to help understand her feelings about her parents’ divorce. When she is told it’s okay to be scared, she decides to roar like a lion so that everyone thinks she is very brave. Throughout the story her parents are there to help remind her that they will always love her and their most special family traditions will never change.
Recommended for Ages 8 and Up
- Divorce Is Not the End of the World By Zoe and Evan Stern (2008) — Following their parents divorce, Zoe and Evan, at the ages of 15 and 12 years old, decided to write this practical and uplifting guide to help other kids understand divorce. Here you and your children can explore ways to manage feelings of guilt, anger and fear, all while learning to adjust to the new changes in life after divorce.
Recommended for Ages 10 and Up
- Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids By Isolina Ricci (2006) — Written by an experienced family therapist, this book is designed to help tweens and teens deal with the pressures that come from living in two separate households with different rules and how to stay neutral when their parents disagree. As a bonus, the book includes handy and easy-to-use check lists and worksheets.
Make the Right Choice for Your Children
With the help of divorce mediation and valuable resources, former spouses can readily learn how to co-parent during and after the divorce process. Children benefit most when parents create an environment of open communication, encouraged expression of emotion, and lower conflict. If you’re in Arizona, be sure to review our guide to divorce in AZ.