Having helped thousands of spouses divorce peacefully, we’ve seen firsthand what really works for our clients. There’s one support element we consistently recommend – here’s why.
What is a Divorce Coach?
A divorce coach is a personal guide, providing support and helping you build emotional resilience throughout the process. They empower you to manage stress, maintain your focus, and approach each challenge with greater clarity and strength.
By working with a divorce coach, you’ll feel empowered and ready to embrace the next chapter of your life.
Why Divorce Mediators Recommend Divorce Coaches
We see great benefits when clients work with divorce coaches – which is why we highly recommend it. Let’s take a look at 5 important reasons why.
1. They Help You Handle Strong Emotions
Divorce can be an emotional rollercoaster. It involves many feelings like sadness, anger, confusion, and fear. Research shows that the best decisions during divorce are made when you feel balanced and confident. A divorce coach understands these emotions and can help you move through them so that you make the best choices for you and your family.
Your coach will help you:
- Deal with stress and worry
- Find ways to cope with difficult feelings
- Stay calm when making important decisions
- Build strength to face challenges
Sometimes emotions make life choices feel impossible. A divorce coach offers support and helps you process those feelings to make the best possible divorce decisions.
2. They Make the Legal Process Easier to Understand
Divorce involves confusing legal steps that can be hard to follow. Your divorce coach helps make these steps clearer by:
- Explaining what will happen during your divorce
- Helping you prepare for meetings with your mediator
- Helping you organizing your thoughts and paperwork
- Identifying what matters most to you
With this help, you’ll feel more confident during meetings. You’ll save time and money because you’ll be better prepared. Your coach acts as someone to bounce ideas off of, helping you think through different options.
3. They Teach You How to Communicate Better
Talking with your ex-spouse during divorce can be really hard, especially when emotions are strong. A divorce coach teaches you how to:
- Express your needs clearly and respectfully
- Listen effectively, even when conversations are difficult
- Stay calm during challenging discussions
- Focus on solving problems rather than arguing
These communication skills help during mediation, where good talking and listening are key to reaching fair agreements. These skills also help you in future relationships and in co-parenting if you have children.
4. They Help You Plan for Your New Future
Divorce means big changes in many areas of your life. Your divorce coach helps you think about and plan for:
- Where you’ll live after divorce
- How to co-parent effectively (if you have children)
- Changes in your work or career
- Taking care of your health and happiness
- Building a new social life
- Setting goals for your future
With a coach, you can create a step-by-step plan for moving forward. This helps you feel more in control during a time when many things seem uncertain.
5. They Work Well With Your Mediator or Lawyer
Your divorce coach, mediator, and lawyer each have different but important roles:
- Your lawyer or mediator gives legal advice and handles the formal divorce process
- Your divorce coach supports your emotional wellbeing and helps you communicate better
When these professionals work together, you get complete support. Clients who work with coaches often come to mediation better prepared. This leads to:
- Shorter, more productive meetings
- Less stress during the process
- Better understanding of agreements
- More confidence in decisions
- Lower overall costs
Real Benefits for Real People
We’ve seen firsthand how divorce coaches help our clients. People who work with coaches often:
- Feel less overwhelmed by the divorce process
- Make decisions they feel good about long-term
- Complete their divorce with less conflict
- Recover emotionally more quickly
- Build healthier relationships after divorce
- Develop better co-parenting relationships when children are involved
Finding a Divorce Coach
If you think a divorce coach might help you, here’s how to find one:
- Ask your mediator for recommendations
- Look for coaches with training in divorce coaching
- Schedule a brief call to see if they’re a good fit for you
- Check if they have experience with situations similar to yours
Our Recommendation
As experienced divorce mediators, we strongly believe in the value of divorce coaches. They provide emotional support, help you understand the process, improve your communication, assist with planning, and work well with your legal team.
Having a divorce coach by your side can help you face divorce with more confidence and peace of mind. It’s an investment not just in getting through your divorce, but in building a better future after it.
We encourage divorce coaches who care about helping people through divorce to share this article. Working together, we can provide better support for people going through this major life change.
Next Steps
If you’re going through a divorce or separation and feel overwhelmed, consider adding a divorce coach to your support team. Contact us for recommendations of qualified divorce coaches in your area. We’re here to help you find the support you need during this challenging time.
