Avoid Conflict not Conversation
Avoiding conversations about divorce can actually lead to a conflict-driven process with expensive divorce attorneys. A spouse being ‘served’ with divorce papers, without warning, often leads to court hearings and continued contention—which are detrimental to your wellness, your children’s wellness, and your future co-parenting relationship.
In your very first conversation, let your spouse know that you both have the choice to complete your divorce in mediation or litigation. Share your goal of a healthier process through online mediation, preventing either of you from ever having to go to court. Explaining this option can help prevent or reduce conflict.
Please note, in cases where safety is a concern, such as situations involving intimate partner violence, unexpected service of divorce papers may be the only reasonable approach.
Take One Step at a Time
Remember, not all divorce-related discussions need to happen right away. Schedule a separate time to discuss details, such as how to divide assets and debts or reach parenting agreements. A disagreement, without the support of an experienced divorce mediator to help navigate, can cause damage and perpetuate fear, mistrust, and “worst-case-scenario” thinking. If a topic becomes uncomfortable or tensions begin to rise, agree to continue the discussion in your mediation meeting.
Gather Information for a Healthier Process
For more information, contact The Aurit Center for Divorce Mediation, and we will email you about scheduling your free 1-hour complimentary consultation and our successful mediation services. Our clients find it is helpful to share our initial email with their spouse during the first discussions about divorce. The email contains a link to our website, which provides key information that helps both spouses to be educated and supported, especially where children are involved. It also includes our contact number so you and/or your spouse can call our office with any questions before your consultation.
During your complimentary consultation, your potential mediator will explain to you and your spouse how divorce mediation works and how it compares to litigation in the courts. They will help answer your questions, and explain our process so you know exactly what to expect during mediation. You can call 480-999-7399 or schedule a complimentary consultation online.
Focusing on a Mindful and Healthy, Low-Conflict, Divorce Process
Once you have the initial conversation, you can focus on having a divorce process which will:
- support financial stability for you and your spouse;
- support the emotional well-being of you, your spouse, and your children;
- set the foundation for healthy co-parenting; and
- ensure that you both feel as stable and secure as possible moving forward.
A more peaceful process begins with the first conversation you and your spouse have about divorce.
You are making the choice to set the foundation for a healthy divorce.
You will get through this—there are brighter days ahead. We are here to help you get there.
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